Ah, to be a woman in 2016.
In the same year this country could elect its first female president, we’re inundated with phrases like “grab her by the p—y” and images of Derrick Rose posing with grinning jurors after being found not liable in his civil rape trial.
We’re confronted with the reality that the NFL — despite its month of bombarding us with pink ribbons, pink socks and pink cleats for Breast Cancer Awareness — seemingly doesn’t give a s–t about us. And even worse, we’re again reminded that a woman’s word is often times meaningless without a man’s word to back it up.
The NFL placed Josh Brown on the commissioner’s exempt list Friday — more than a year after the Giants kicker was arrested on a domestic violence charge, more than two months after details of the alleged abuse (including that his wife Molly said she’d been physically attacked over 20 times) were first reported by the media, but only two days after the revelation that Brown wrote in a journal: “I HAVE Abused my wife.”
See, it was Josh Brown’s words that mattered; his words that led to the latest investigation.
In August, Brown was suspended only one game for violating the NFL’s personal conduct policy. Giants owner John Mara even admitted that the organization knew about Brown’s arrest when it decided to re-sign him to a two-year, $4 million deal.
“Based on the facts and circumstances that we were aware of at that time, we were comfortable with our decision to re-sign him,” Mara said.
That same month when Jason Pierre-Paul was asked if Big Blue should — gasp — cut his teammate, the defensive end got defensive: “Why should he be cut?”
JPP added: “Who knows? You wasn’t there.”
Well, Pierre-Paul, neither were you. And neither was guard Justin Pugh, who stood behind the kicker at the time.
“All we can do is support our teammate and make sure we’re there for him,” Pugh said at the time. “It’s definitely a tough thing to go through.”
But as revealed on Wednesday, in Brown’s own words — you know, the ones that the NFL cared about — he wrote in a journal about his wife: “When I control her, she should be invisible and satisfied. She should die.”
In a 2013 document from part of a counseling program, Brown wrote: “I have physically, verbally and emotionally abused my wife Molly.”
Pugh released a statement Friday, explaining that he was “misinformed and unknowingly speaking with limited information” when he took Brown’s side.
The NFL placed Josh Brown on the commissioner’s exempt list Friday — more than a year after the Giants kicker was arrested on a domestic violence charge.
(Eric Christian Smith/AP)
“I had no personal knowledge of his behavior at home and obviously do not condone domestic violence of any kind.”
Hey, thanks, that means a lot.
Maybe Pugh will just release that statement; maybe he will donate to a domestic violence prevention group; or maybe, just maybe, he’ll consider the possibility that when a woman says she’s being abused, she is being abused — or when a woman says she’s being sexually assaulted, she is being sexually assaulted.
In 2014, it took Hannibal Buress — a man — saying on stage at a Philadelphia comedy club that Bill Cosby rapes women to bring national attention to the comedian’s disgusting past.
This year, it wasn’t until audio was released of Donald Trump bragging in 2005 about sexually assaulting women that there was a major shift in the public’s perception of him, with a group of Republicans dropping their endorsements.
Women have come forward and accused the presidential nominee of kissing and groping them (which he’s denied), but without Trump’s own admission, would those politicians be jumping off the Trump bandwagon?
It’s somewhat baffling that even in 2016, with all the progress that’s been made, women’s words often fall on deaf ears. And these words, my words, may fall on deaf ears.
But these words are important: The harsh reality is the NFL hasn’t learned anything from its mishandling of the Ray Rice debacle and is still glaringly inconsistent when it comes to domestic violence. The league, which spent considerable time and money (a reported three months, $5 million) investigating deflated footballs, doesn’t seem that interested in discovering which of its employees hurt women.
What happened to that six-game ban baseline for domestic abuse?
Sure, the NFL is reviewing new information regarding Brown, but the kicker is getting paid while it does so; the Giants haven’t even cut him.
One of the Daily News’ most powerful front pages last year came on Dec. 31, after Cosby was charged with aggravated indecent assault. The cover showed a picture of the comedian’s mug shot and read “HE SAID — SHE SAID” with over 50 more ‘she saids’ filling the entirety of the page, representing his many accusers.
Today, women are still left wondering how many ‘she saids’ are needed to equal one ‘he said.’ What does it take to be taken seriously? For the NFL, going forward, what will be considered enough?
They better figure it out. Fast.
Source: NY Daily News Headlines Sports News